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Then I Forgot

T.Puzzle is a precarious seven years old.  He often loses focus quickly if the activity he is doing doesn’t capture his imagination.  If I ask him to feed the dogs, it’s likely that they will be fed in addition to having kibble spread over the entirety of the kitchen floor.  When it’s time for him to use his mouthwash, he might ‘accidentally’ dump half a bottle all over the bathroom floor, never even considering for a moment to stop and clean up the minty aftermath.  On the bright side, my house now has a freshness about it and remains cavity-free.  He also tends to accumulate pounds of sand in his shoes from his outside recess time.  He’s been told to dump his shoes out before entering the house, but sometimes, he prefers to empty his shoes in the closet.  The list goes on and on.

He was having a particularly off day so it was no surprise that his performance at his flag football game was lackluster.  He seemed to be doing a lot of interesting dance moves on the field and not a lot of flag-pulling.  In his defense, his dance moves were pretty sweet.  After the game, which was a heartbreaking defeat by one point, he bounded over to us because really, as long as you have moves like Jagger, what is there to be sad about?  Mad Dog asked him what the coach said about the game and any details about upcoming practices.

“Well, I don’t really know what he said,” T.Puzzle replied.

“Weren’t you listening?” asked Mad Dog.

“I WAS listening and then all I could think about was my snack and then I forgot what he said,” was T.Puzzle’s honest answer.

That made me laugh so hard.  After my laughter subsided his comment opened my eyes.  How can I be upset with T.Puzzle when he’s being completely and totally himself?

Seven may be fraught with messy distractions, but seriously, it’s T.Puzzle’s best year yet.

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I love this kid!!

 

 

 

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Change Your Mind, Not Yourself (Happy Mother’s Day)

I recently was scrolling through a woman’s magazine on my iPad.  I quickly became discouraged as page after page advertised or extolled all the ways I needed to improve my external appearance.   It seems I have too many spots, wrinkles and imperfections to be considered truly beautiful by this magazine’s stringent and impossible standards.  I started to get really mad.  Mad at myself for all my flaws and mad at this magazine for pressuring me to be perfect.  Eventually I realized that I couldn’t really be mad at the magazine.  It is only perpetuating the insane ideals we as a whole have bought into.  What really, can any of us do about it?  We are helpless to the passage of time and the changes our faces and bodies will inevitably go through.  No amount of cream, lotion or potion will stop this.

Since I can’t change society or the external pressures we face, all I can do is change my mind about my own standard of beauty.  I started to think about the people in my life that were and are beautiful to me.  First and foremost, there was my Mom.  While she was living, she was one of the most beautiful people I’ve ever had the honor of knowing.  She had the lightest blue eyes that always hinted at the wry humor hidden within them and she had this megawatt smile that could light up a room.  Hmmm,… she wasn’t a supermodel and she still did age through the years yet she was gorgeous to me.

My Beautiful Mom
My Beautiful Mom

On this Mother’s Day, I would like us all to entertain the possibility that maybe how we look on the outside has nothing to do with real beauty.  Let’s try to honor ourselves by how we love instead of how we look.

My wish for today is that when my boys look back at this time in our lives, they will recall a Mom who loved as much as she was loved and above all else, was perfectly beautiful just as she was.

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It’s Write in the Genes

82SSW8CAJEIDU9CAFIGB68CA34USVPCAKFQ3XJCA545AKNCA5C2DJ4CAH9UTODCABW1M93CA45DJ67CAWF0EKWCAQ9CDW0CA6BNTUPCABL982DCACTHT22CA7G2FADCAA23NBCCAJE6CRKCABK50VNCA4X11CYWhen Full Speed started kindergarten within the first two weeks his teacher pulled me aside.  She was sincerely concerned about his fine motor skills and wondered if his vision was impacting his abilities to print (it wasn’t, his handwriting was just that bad).  Naturally I responded in the only way I knew how.  I teared up, went home and called everyone I knew to whine and complain about this horrible injustice.  Yeah, my denial phase about Full Speed’s printing was pretty short-lived.  Once I got over myself, I set my overachiever self on a mission to make him the best 5-year-old printer in America.  Let’s just say, I had mixed results and it tested my relationship with him in not the best of ways.  Ultimately, what I realized is would I rather have a super awesome kid like Full Speed, or a regular kid that is a super awesome printer?  Hands down, I would choose Full Speed every single time.

Full Speed is now an energetic third grader.  His handwriting is still questionable at best, but he lives with such joy and enthusiasm, I don’t really mind.  For instance, he had his first brush with standardized state testing and handled it like a rock star.  He was calm, cool and confident.  Thank goodness he didn’t inherit my anxiety genes (but I can print like nobody’s business!).  To help prepare the class for the Big Test, his teacher requested parents send in encouraging handwritten notes.  I assigned day two of the test to Mad Dog.  He wrote a great little note about how Full Speed was growing into a fine young man and that he was an excellent big brother.  While Full Speed’s teacher appreciated Mad Dog’s note, she had an interesting take on it.  She told Full Speed she now understood where he inherited his handwriting skills.  According to what she read from the note, Full Speed was not an excellent big brother, but rather a big bother.

Interestingly enough, if you ask T.Puzzle he confirms this.

 

 

 

 

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The Stairs Hurt

ry=400-1As T.Puzzle has attempted to gain mastery over his two-wheel bicycle, it is sometimes a losing battle.  Coupled with getting regularly pounded by players twice his size in his U10 soccer league, this boy has taken quite a beating over the past few weeks.  I’ve become accustomed to hearing his wails of pain.  So, when I heard him cry out after a tussle with the stairs, I sprang into my usual action.  I scooped him up, held him and let the tirade of tears unleash.

“What happened?” I asked.

T.Puzzle’s response was choked with pain.  “Well, I was going down the stairs on my stomach and each step that hit my stomach hurt it worse and worse.”

How does one respond to that?

I didn’t have a logical response so I calmly walked away, went up the stairs using my FEET and hid my exasperated chuckle from him.

Turns out, feet really are the way to go when using the stairs.

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Good Deal

ry=400-9I was attempting to access an app on Full Speed’s electronic device. In theory, I understood what needed to be done. All I had to do was go to the App Store and find it under the already purchased category. As I tried to execute the theory, I came to a standstill. As I gazed at the glowing face of the iPad, I was frozen with indecision. Where was the app I wanted? Why couldn’t I find the purchased section? Where had my dignity gone? Full Speed, who could see that dear old Mom was struggling, hopped up, came to my aid and in about two seconds flat, found exactly what I needed. He did it in a way that you would patiently help a toddler. This was rather humbling at 8am in the morning.

“Full Speed, are you going to take care of me when I’m old?”

T.Puzzle who didn’t miss a beat chimed in, “Yeah, probably not, Mom.”

Full Speed had a different approach. “Sure, Mom. I’ll take care of you as long as you take care of my dogs.”

Deal. Obviously this technologically challenged Mom can’t afford to be choosy.