parenting – Page 33 – Writes for all Mommies

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Butterflies and Best Friends

08/04/2013 WFAM

Sometimes, as you make your way through life, you don’t understand that if you find a true friend along the way, you should do everything in your power to keep them. I didn’t realize that when I met my dear friend while interning in graduate school, that she would become a life-long support in the ups and downs of my life. Even though years and an entire width of America has kept us physically separated, we have smartly stayed connected through mutual effort and commitment. When she came for a visit this past week after not seeing her for nearly six years (shockingly, we had not aged at all), we happily picked up right where we left off. She had her adorable five-year old daughter in tow who quickly became one of my best friends as well.

The boys were very gracious helping to host and gamely participated in all things girl to keep her happy. However, by the third day, Full Speed was starting to crack. He didn’t understand why after ‘playing the games she wants, reading the books she wants and watching the shows she wants,” why on earth were we making him go see a 3D movie about butterflies?

When we arrived at the IMAX he perked up a little at the size of the theater. Naturally, as the butterflies seemingly flitted past our faces, my friend’s daughter lovingly tried to catch them. Full Speed and T.Puzzle tried to karate chop them into oblivion.

When the movie was over, Full Speed announced it was 1% interesting and 99% boring. He was allowed to vent this opinion because he still had an afternoon and evening of Dora the Explorer and Rescue Fairy Princesses ahead of him.

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Always Do Your Best

01/04/2013 WFAM

We are finally home from a ten-day trip. We had an awesome time in Pigeon Forge, TN. Here are a few things I learned:

1. Directions in unfamiliar territory seem to be a hot-button issue in my marriage. I don’t know what it is about not knowing where you are at that brings out the worst in me and my beloved. Regardless of a few tense moments, we always managed to reach our destination. For the most part, we also managed to still love each other even if we didn’t always like each other in the process.

2. Spending time with my nieces and nephew was fantastic. If I had it my way, I would have all my nieces and nephews live on my street and have them over as much as possible.

3. No matter where you put my boys, they are in a constant competition with life and each other. They had an hour-long debate over who came in first in a go-cart race. If I thought Mad Dog and I were heated over directions, it was nothing compared to the constant chatter of winner vs. loser between our boys. And, unfortunately, they never ever agreed to disagree. Made for some long rides back to our cabin.

4. So, their competitive streak has its downside, but surprisingly, it also has an immense upside. We were at Dixie Stampede which is Dolly Parton’s dinner attraction. The boys were selected by our server to be in a chicken chasing competition. They strategized from the moment they were selected. Full Speed instructed T.Puzzle where and how to run. T.Puzzle was overwhelmed at first by the enormity of the arena and the crowd. He stood quaking at the side of the gate right before they were sent in. Once inside the big, gaping, dust-covered space, he looked at Full Speed and they both got that look of determination on their faces. When the chickens were released, theirs didn’t stand a chance. Full Speed ran so intensely after it he fell down nearly crushing the chicken. They worked as a team and ran with such fire, the other two boys on the opposing side looked as if they were moving in slow-motion. Even after they successfully crossed the finish line, T.Puzzle kept chasing his chicken. He almost ran it all the way back to where the rest of show animals were being housed.

The boys show off their victory medals with pride. Thank goodness they were on the same team!

I may get frustrated by the intensity of my boys, but I have to say, seeing them give their all in everything they do, even chasing a chicken, keeps me inspired to always do my best.

It’s good to be home!

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That Bites

20/03/201320/03/2013 WFAM

On our ride home from school, T.Puzzle complained of a mosquito bite on his elbow.

Full Speed shared his thoughts.

“I hope it wasn’t from a mosquito infected with West Nile or malaria.”

“What are those?,” asked poor, sweet T.Puzzle.

Before I had a chance to shut down Mr. Encyclopedia of Dangerous Facts, Full Speed went on to state how they are both deadly diseases and last year alone malaria killed nearly ONE MILLION people. I could see him in the rear view mirror as he gesticulated vigorously to bring his point home. He then leaned back in a just-terrified-my-little-brother, satisfied sort of way.

For T.Puzzle, mosquito bites are like having a big brother. They are persistent and a threat to your well-being.

Even on the soccer field Full Speed orders around his little brother. No wonder T.Puzzle's so feisty! — Even on the soccer field Full Speed orders around his little brother. No wonder T.Puzzle’s so feisty!

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The Bike Ride

17/03/2013 WFAM

As long as there is breath in my body, I will fight for the right to have a family bike ride. I play enough sports, I watch enough sports and I attend enough sporting events that I am justified in rounding up all three of my boys for bike riding. They are so wholly resistant at times, I question whether I should push forward. Then, after another round of football/baseball/basketball, I think, you know what? I deserve a little something for me.

Mad Dog’s week has been particularly demanding work-wise so when a 90 minute window opened up for us to hop on our bikes this weekend, we took it. I couldn’t believe we were finally doing something I wanted. The sky was cloudless and the kind of deep blue that takes your breath away. The temperature was perfect and I could hear the birds chirping us on to a fun family outing. Life was good.

We rode all of five minutes and T.Puzzle announces that he needs to use the bathroom.

Uncle.

There, I said it.

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Chipped

12/03/2013 WFAM

As a parent I understand that I have to let my boys do things each day that make them feel like they are contributing to the family. It’s not easy for someone like myself to do this lightly. I like order. I like things put away. When I clean something, I expect it to look more clean than when I started. My boys don’t have these types of concerns.

I’ve come to accept that when it’s time for the boys to ‘help’ me unload the dishwasher it’s a disorderly matter. As I watched Full Speed begin to unload the cups and glasses, I marvelled at how it quickly devolved into a display of martial artistry. I didn’t know it was possible for two cups to fight to the death. He was quite creative. I kept admonishing him that my cups were not toys and could he please just put them where they were suppose to go? Apparently, he could not. He grabbed two coffee mugs and clinked them together in a rush of fighting glory. There was a crack in the air as a piece of my very favorite mug went flying. His eyes grew big and he hung his head low.

I went through the usual Mom-type lectures about ‘why don’t you listen the first time?’ and ‘cups are our friends’.

When it was all said and done, I actually am kind of thankful he chipped my favorite mug. It seems to fit my life better because really, who am I kidding? If I’m going to be the Mom of these two guys, do I really expect my porcelain mugs to remain intact? Of course not.

Even at age 4 and 2, these guys could light up a room with their smiles and energy — Even at ages 4 and 2, these guys could light up a room with their smiles and energy

I wouldn’t trade my boys for all the perfectly intact dinnerware in the universe.